Princesses in Marriage

I am writing this as an observation to help the youth and their parents especially in things spousal choice.

Have you realized that as you read the Bible that girls from dynasties introduced difficult dynamics in the places they were married into?

Why was Moses unable to control Zipporah? The most likely reason was the fact that she was the daughter of a priest. It was thus difficult to have her in subjection to a spiritual ‘nobody’ from Egypt. Though all Israel submitted to his calling, his wife had real struggles to do the same because she was from a connected branch.

Why did David have issues with Michal yet they were so much in love? She was a king’s daughter and really struggled to transfer her submission from her father to a husband, especially because her father was opposed to him. She was therefore torn between love and submission. I hope you remember why Saul gave her to him in the first place.

Do you realize that Absalom was not the first or even second born in David’s family?

Yet why did he overthrow his father? And why did his younger brother also plan a takeover even before David died as a right when we see him asking for Solomon’s heartbeat?

Their mother was a king’s daughter.

And did you also know that Jezebel and Athaliah were also king’s daughters?

And did you also know that Solomon was led astray by princesses that he had married, seven hundreds of them?

Everyone carries with them a spiritual heritage from their roots.

And that heritage shades everything they do, especially to their husband’s position and authority.

It is sad that the other world knows about this dynamic even as most believers have no clue. Just like Jesus said when he was talking about the use of money.

It is no surprise therefore that believers are taken advantage again and again by this dynamic.

Do some little research and you will discover that many ministers who were called in their youth lost their cutting edge after getting married. Dig deeper and you may discover a girl whose past was muddied generationally. She therefore brings that muddied dynamic into his ministry and calling and like Jezebel and those others will shift his focus into other things.

Even sadder is that the enemy will then bring ‘success’ to that partnership to ensure that the blinding is complete. Remember Jezebel had eight-fifty prophets at her disposal! And that Solomon’s business partnerships (marriages) made silver as common as stones in Jerusalem.

This serves to cover for the spiritual discontent when someone considers their past when they were sold out to God.

How many times have you heard people saying that the pastor would be okay but for his wife?

I have written elsewhere that by design connectors ensure that spiritual firebrands get married to extinguishers. That is a spiritual reality.

But young people will not listen, or so we think. Probably we do not know how to speak to them even as the other side has a complete software package to connect them to these extinguishers.

We must thus become more intentional in the way we instruct our youth to help them understand and especially follow Christ in their spousal choices.

The Bible clearly says that we are not unaware of the devil’s devices. But it is instructive to acknowledge that we many times play along with his dramatics.

Ask Solomon. Ask David. Ask Noah. Ask Lot.

I am therefore writing this to raise awareness that marriage in the spiritual realm is not just about a young man and a maiden. There are spiritual dynamics involved and our ignorance is not any sort of defense. On the contrary the other side treats it with utmost importance.

It means we will always be on the losing side as our future and vision will be curtailed by those decisions we make without seriousness.

But it was not so in the past. Parents made a thorough research on the suitor for their child to ensure that the vision of their family will thrive because of that union.

Will we choose to do that as spiritual leaders?