I want to don my controversy hat today for a moment.
I want us to realize that among
the verses the enemy loves quoting is that God hates divorce.
The fact that he does quote it
does not mean that it is not true. What it means is that he seeks to use that
truth to steal, kill and destroy.
As we all know, the devil knows
the scriptures than all of us. In fact, he even believes them.
His only problem is that he has
chosen to walk in the path of disobedience, rebellion if we may say so.
That is why he thrives on
nitpicking.
He does it because he knows that
by confusing issues in the scriptures he can gain a following of rebellious
partners.
Remember he even used a scripture
on the Word Himself?
His purpose for using that verse
is therefore negative
You see, God gave that truth
instructively and restoratively. God wants marriages to thrive. He therefore
points us to the pitfalls of falling from His standard.
The devil uses the verse to breed
pain and resentment and condemnation.
I have said elsewhere that the
fact that God hates divorce does not mean He loves abuse and unfaithfulness and
desertion.
Yet that is what the devil wants
to focus on.
He seeks to make vice thrive in
marriage by using that verse as bait.
Then he will be able to make marriage
the breeding ground for pain and resentment as a result of allowing abuse.
The verse is used to normalize
every evil in a marriage by taking the abused on a guilt trip when they feel
they can endure no more because they know that the wounds will continue
festering and growing in intensity. Then of course he will inspire an
explosion.
But even worse is the fact that
the wounded has no capacity for responding to God’s love or calling as they
have been blinded by all that pain.
Some of the hibernating ministers
I have written about are so because of that deception. Marriages have killed
enough calls of God and ministry.
Though marriage is important to
God, it can be destructive to His agenda if it is elevated above where God has
placed it especially because we know that there is no marriage in heaven apart
from Christ’s marriage to His church.
It is not a marriage if it blocks
you from serving God as He orders you.
And we have enough examples in
the Bible; from Solomon to Ahab.
Let me give us verses to consider
when marriage becomes an obstacle to God’s purpose for your life.
And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter
into life maimed, than having two hands to go into hell, into the fire that
never shall be quenched: Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not
quenched. And if thy foot offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to
enter halt into life, than having two feet to be cast into hell, into the fire
that never shall be quenched: Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not quenched.
And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out: it is better for thee to enter into
the kingdom of God with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell
fire: (Mark 9: 43 – 47)
If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife,
and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot
be my disciple. (Luke 14:26)
You see, God and His agenda is
primary in your life and not marriage.
Marriage fits in that agenda if
it is aligned to that purpose. Otherwise it can be a weight to obstruct and
distract us from that purpose. On such then the command to cut off is allowed. Otherwise
you could enjoy a marriage that disqualifies you from eternal life.
God hates divorce. That is true.
But marriage is not all there is
to that instruction.
We need to know what God loves. Because
that is how we can understand why He hates divorce.
One such purpose for marriage is
a godly offspring. This easily tells us that God is glorified when a marriage
is healthy since that is the only time it can produce a godly offspring.
We of course know that a
marriage, however good it is, is against God’s purpose when it is centred on
the here and now. Simply speaking, a marriage that is focused on the world and
all it contains is a marriage that will never please God. A marriage that is
geared on acquiring all there is to acquire in this life is a vain marriage.
Why did Esau’s marriages grieve
Isaac? There was no violence or infidelity or these other things we complain
about. It appears as if it was so satisfactory to Esau and his wives that he
did not even notice his father’s grief.
It grieved him because it cut
Esau from the vine that was the promise.
A misyoke in marriage is a
serious problem because it brings about partners who are pulling in different
directions like Nabal and Abigail.
What has you marriage done to
your passion for God? What has it done to God’s call on your life? What has it
done to your relationships with people who help you connect with God better?
God hates divorce. But it is of
no use to remain married and head to hell because the marriage cut you off from
the vine that is Christ.
God hates divorce. But do not let
the devil give you lessons on the same.
When God says He hates divorce,
He is thinking about restoration and health. But when the devil is pushing the
narrative, he is after your destruction.
In other words, God seeks to
liberate you and give you a lighter yoke. The devil on the other hand seeks to
enslave you.
Whose script are you reading
from?
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