Teamwork Failures 2

I want us to focus on the modern family unit and marriage.

It is tragic that many a modern woman thinks she is spiritual when she is trashing her captain.

She will thus make spiritually binding decisions and actions without as much as informing her ‘dumb’ husband.

The worse tragedy is that quite a number of modern men think this is fine, some even appreciating it.

The truth of the matter is that the captain is the extension of the coach in the field.

Disregarding or despising the captain is akin to insulting the coach.

Bypassing the captain by going for instructions from the coach is openly rebelling against the same coach you are seeking instructions from since he is the one who appointed the captain.

You may complain against the captain but you have no choice in the team but submit to him.

I am thinking of these women who make their husbands the focus of their prayers thinking that they are very spiritual in so doing. Yet they are doing the exact opposite.

Taking your bedroom issues outside without following protocol is counterproductive because it is insulting to the coach.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. (1Peter 3: 1, 2)

It is by submitting to the captain that will draw him to seek the direction of the coach, not questioning his leadership.

A spiritually submitted wife is the most effective evangelist to her husband.

Prayers and fasts and courses on this or the other have a zero capacity of drawing him to a decision to submit to the God you pretend to follow because it is a clear demonstration of rebellion, a rebellion he will instinctively resist.

Reporting your husband to that pastor or bishop for this or the other so that they may pray for your marriage is the sledgehammer you are using to completely kill that marriage.

My sister, that drunk husband; that womanising maniac, that free spending resource waster can only be brought to spiritual sanity by your recognising his position as your undisputed leader, however unqualified he may appear to be.

That same submission is what will show him the need to submit to the One who installed him as the captain of that structure.

Stop looking for pastors and bishops to talk sense to him. Just talk sense to yourself and recognise him as your lord as Sarah did to Abraham.

Then watch him melt. Watch him develop spiritual muscle and leadership that you never imagined he possessed.

Belittling him will kill his spirit.

Submitting to him will arouse the lion in him to protect, instruct and provide for you.

It is a basic inbuilt drive. It is instinctive for the most part.

Being raised to trash the divine order may diminish the drive. But it never kills it.

Give him the chance to lead and bask in the glory of realising a lion out what you saw as a house cat. Because that is what he was created to be.

Though it may be unpalatable for many who have been feeding on strange fair opposed to the divine order, it is the only solution God has for a world gone awry.

And it is good to give a small scriptural example.

Mary, Jesus’ mother was highly treated by the angel to the point that there are people who worship her to date.

Yet do you realise that after Joseph took responsibility for her there is not a single instance where we have God speaking to her, even about her and her Son?

Her responsibility became Joseph’s. Her relationship with God, however rich it was, was transferred to Joseph.

It is possible that handling that responsibility was too much for him that he was not around by the time Jesus became a public figure. And the reason Jesus transferred that responsibility to John when He was dying.

Another example worth noting in this respect is Manoah.

Never in the Bible do we see God explaining to a wife an order He gave her husband.

An example is that Moses was being killed simply because Zipporah did not understand or appreciate circumcision since it was foreign to her culture.

Yet what happens when an angel appears to Manoah’s wife? (by the way does she even have a name?)

Her husband questions the order (seeking clarity is more polite) and its source

God gives him the chance to interact with the same angel some other time, and not even issuing any other order. He simply repeated his earlier order.

That was because he was the one with the spiritual responsibility of raising Samson.

Remember Numbers 30?