Desperate Independence

And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach. (Isaiah 4:1)

I am being consistently led to some trending topics of our day.

So much of baby daddy and baby mama and deadbeat this or the other flood social media and at times even the mainstream.

It seems as if the topic we loathe most is the one we cannot avoid.

You will hear a young girl calling all men dogs or something even more detestable (I am an African) at her prime (whatever that means).

After a few years you see her boasting about her bae (again I do not know what that means) before after a heartbreak shoots more poisonous epithets at men.

She then boasts of her independence from men and her liberation from their ‘abuse’.

The interesting thing is that after a few years (or not so few) she will be at it again, parading the infallible man friend.

Then after another heartbreak she finally decides she is done with men. This is after a child or so and many times having milked enough resources from any man who dared cross her path. There are women with a child having up to three birth certificates, each with a different father so that she enjoys triple ‘blessings’ in the name of child support. Each ‘father’ is confident he is supporting his child.

That may be the reason many of those ‘single mothers’ will never allow their children to connect with their fathers.

They will therefore be financially stable.

Only to see her wooing small boys to marry her once she discovers that her independence is a lot of hot air and all the men of substance are unreachable. This time, instead of looking for a man to provide for her will gladly proudly provide a completely useless man comfort just to have someone to come to at home for some stupid comforts.

I believe that is what this verse is talking about.

You see, we defy God and His standards at our peril. And we can never bypass the consequences of the choices we make in that direction.

If we do not go the Sodom way, we will be bound to reap from our choices in a big way.

It is possible for a woman to stay without a man in God’s scheme of things. But it has to be consistent with God’s revelation like we see with Anna in Luke 2.

Seeking to reap womanhood aside from God’s revelation is disastrous.

Yet this is what we see when we look at women nowadays, even women in church. They are competing for prominence, especially by taking all the power positions in churches, leaving men with little or no place to serve. They are therefore left with looking for money to run the affairs of the women, even in God’s house.

A man without responsibility is a completely emasculated specimen, meaning that he has a very weak spine, if any at all.

And that is why in places where women have been consistently empowered we have men who have gotten lost to drug and alcohol abuse since God created them for domination. Removing responsibility from them therefore effectively kills their reason for existence.

That is why there are no men for these independent women, especially because they have been taught to dominate their space, including the men who approach them. It is interesting that it is these women nowadays who are pushing for men to be allowed to marry many women. Sadly, I have heard that argument even from women pastors.

Sadly for them, the men who can manage them are all occupied and responsible. Meaning that they will not create space for that desperate independent woman as they have their family they must keep intact.

I wrote a more comprehensive post long ago with the title, Genetically Modified Woman …’ and so will not dwell so much on this.

Suffice it to say that I want us to appreciate the point that for that equation to change, men MUST take their spiritual position seriously. And it is not much different for women.

Otherwise we are doomed. And that is what the world has been aiming at since time immemorial.

The cry we see in Isaiah 4 is the cry of the fiercely independent woman of our day who has decided against going God’s way. It is the cry of the bitter single mother who despised all men because one man messed her foolish search for security outside God’s bounds. And it is the cry of the woman who decided to eat life with a big spoon by ditching responsibility and spiritual accountability by making men toys to play with.

It is the cry that is produced by a full life lived outside God’s revelation.

Of course there are women who were abused and cheated on and betrayed as they sought to walk in God’s ways. And like I always say God always reserves grace for them. They therefore do not get into the desperation we see here as they are on God’s side. Even the repentant have grace extended in their direction.

This post is about the bitter independent woman who had thought she could do without God’s order of things.